I have been getting periodic updates about Patrick from his new family but was kind of hesitant to post about it here because he really was basically doing the same. He was still having lots of behavioral challenges but they were managing it because of all the help that is in the house. In one sense it made me feel better that he was still difficult for them and it wasn't just all our problem. Ann was always so understanding in the way she talked to us about it and admitted that he was a major handful and she was really surprised that we lasted as long as we did.
However we still did want to see him improve. That was the reason we decided on the move, because we thought he would just do better there in that situation.
Yesterday though I got a letter from Ann that just made my day.
Here it is in her words.
just a quick update. Patrick is doing well. he is now fully-included in a regular kindergarten class full-time. he went from about 50 challenging behaviors a day at school to one per week. he is doing GREAT. he does have a 1:1 aide who knows sign language. he has lots of regular ed friends and is even getting invited to birthday parties. obviously he still has some challenging behaviors and can be very needy but he is making improvements daily. :-) i think he is just a kid who "takes a village."
hope all is well,
This is the kid who had to have 3 psychiatric hospitalizations this past summer and nobody knew what to do with him. This is the kid who was about to be sent to a behavioral school in the city. Now here he is integrated in a regular ed kindergarten. This makes me so happy. This makes it feel like it was all worth it.
The great thing about Ann too is that she never made us feel like we were terrible parents and we just couldn't hack it and it was a good thing she was there to fix things. If you were to ask her what her secret was with these kids she would just kind of shrug her shoulders and act like she didn't know. For some reason these guys just do better there she would say. Having all the help is a big plus. We used to think that Patrick just needed a 1:1 person on him all day at home and school and he would probably be a lot better but we just couldn't provide that for him. We are just so so thankful that somebody can though.
When I think about what kind of situation he would be in if he was still in Liberia it is just amazing. So yes I am sorry that we couldn't be the ones to finish what we started but I am thankful that God is finishing what he started and it isn't all about us and what we did. It's all about God and He gets all the glory.
If you are interested in following Patrick's progress on Ann's website you will need to look for him under the name Greyson. She already had a Patrick so I guess she just did that to make it less confusing. The last update on the site was in December so this here is the most recent but I did appreciate what she wrote about him and our situation on her site.
Also, if you get a chance check out the boys' new music video on the home page. They have a professional musician helping them and when we were there in December they were so proud of their "Band of Brothers". So cute. :) If you can't understand the words they are written out on the YouTube page.